At what part of life can you say you are a grown up, an adult. We redefine over and over again, we never stop learning and in one way or another, we develop continuously.
Is it a child or a mortgage? Is it a steady job or when you learn how to drive? Is it when you lose your virginity?
Do we ever grow up? Or is just maturity? Is it naivety that holds us back?
Maybe we never grow up and the term adults is a statement of age and not mind.
I want to mature, I want to be professional and I want to expand. But I don’t want to grow up. Not fully.
The president of Nigeria has signed a law criminalizing meetings between LGBT people. Signed without announcement, the Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Act criminalizes LGBT “clubs, associations and organizations” with a penalty of up to 14 years in jail.
The motivation for the Nigerian law is unclear, given that the country already has one making homosexual sex illegal. And gay people were not demanding to be married in a country where being gay can get a person lynched by a mob. In parts of northern Nigeria where Islamic Shariah law is enforced, gays and lesbians can be legally stoned to death.
Some have suggested the new law in Nigeria and the proposed one in Uganda are a backlash to Western pressure to decriminalize homosexuality. Several African leaders have warned they will not be dictated to on a subject that is anathema to their culture and religion.
Oof. Things are not getting better.
Shit! When is the world gonna fully progress?
Despite the trending Twitter hashtag #TomGayley, Mr. Daley never used the word “gay,” and there was the matter of his still fancying girls. While many commenters embraced the ambiguity (“I don’t care if Tom Daley’s gay or bi or whatever … He’s still fit,” one tweeted), others raised eyebrows.
Was it a disclaimer? A cop-out? A ploy to hold on to fans? Was he being greedy, as some joked? Or was he, as the video’s blushing tone suggested, simply caught up in the heady disorientation of first love, a place too intoxicating for labels?
Whatever the answer, Mr. Daley’s disclosure reignited a fraught conversation within the L.G.B.T. community, having to do with its third letter. Bisexuality, like chronic fatigue syndrome, is often assumed to be imaginary by those on the outside. The stereotypes abound: bisexuals are promiscuous, lying or in denial. They are gay men who can’t yet admit that they are gay, or “lesbians until graduation,” sowing wild oats before they find husbands.
“The reactions that you’re seeing are classic in terms of people not believing that bisexuality really exists, feeling that it’s a transitional stage or a form of being in the closet,” said Lisa Diamond, a professor at the University of Utah who studies sexual orientation.